#what even is femininity i mean #words and gender are tricky things #(and also note this is all in hs so) #(did new york change anything?) #(well if so that’s interesting!) #anyway #so many sides #<3 (via the-multicorn)
Interesting indeed. I think New York, and just growing up, did have an impact. His girls are still his girls. He still ends up with them in 5x20 to talk to Mercedes. But he doesn’t group himself with them nearly as strongly as he once did.
There’s so much more ease with the boys (the bros, even) in the post-high-school era. Some of it has to do with those boys, who aren’t twitchy and immature and uncomfortable around Kurt the way they might have been in high school. They’re more welcoming to him.
And part of it is Kurt, himself. In New York, he’s able to grow into his own skin in a whole new way. In high school, he knew who he was but he wore it like an armor, keeping himself separate as a means of self-protection (very often with bolder fashion in many layers). In New York, he’s more at ease. He doesn’t need to be as bold or keep himself as separate. Fewer layers, easier body language with other people. And more settled in his masculinity, I think. It may or may not look like someone else’s idea of masculinity, but it doesn’t matter anymore. He owns who he is.
I would argue that the answer is both ‘yes’ and ‘no’, but in a slightly different way, kind of expanding on Liz’s idea -
We know Kurt’s changed - physically it’s addressed, the tattoo, his whole “my outside matches my inside” thing, but he’s still comfortable with the girls. He lives with Rachel and Santana. He works with Isabelle. The only boys directly in Kurt’s sphere for any length of time in New York (at least for a long time) is Blaine and Adam, who serve as romantic interests, and then Elliot, who he’s initially wary of.
Kurt comes into his own masculinity a lot throughout the seasons, but I would also point out that New York allows him to surround himself with…well, himself. Fashionistas at Vogue and theater kids at NYADA who were probably like him in high school. He’s not forced to pick “teams” in New York but instead he’s surrounded by his comfort zone. The “bros” he’s around are around by choice, not because he’s forced together with them like he was in a school setting.
He absolutely owns who he is, but he also submerges himself to the point that he doesn’t venture out of his comfort space anymore. He surrounds himself with people like him and therefore he doesn’t have to change hearts or minds - like he did with Finn, or Karofsky, or Artie, the other guys who were wary of his “Kurt-ness” (I don’t know how else to describe it), who eventually came around as family/good friends.